Abstract Fly ash is solid waste produced by thermal power generation, and its carbon content is a key factor affecting its recycling. Due to the large difference in fly ash quality and insufficient tribocharging, the parallel plate electric field with constant electric field strength cannot meet the practical needs of efficient decarbonization of fly ash particles with wide charge range or small charge to mass ratio (CMR). Therefore, a nonlinear electric field structure is proposed. The separation process of fly ash particles in the nonlinear electric field is explored through the establishment of geometric model and the application of CFD-DEM coupled calculation method, and the main influencing factors of fly ash electrostatic dry separation are studied. The results show that the nonlinear electric field structure is feasible to achieve high efficiency decarbonization of fly ash. With the increase of air flow velocity, the loss on ignition of positive electrode first increases and then decreases. The loss on ignition (LOI) of positive electrode products is directly proportional to the voltage and the CMR of the input, but inversely proportional to the feed quantity. Air flow velocity of 20 m/s, voltage of 30 kV, charge-mass ratio of 1.1–1.2 nC/g and feed quantity of 5000/s are suitable conditions for efficient decarbonization of fly ash. Compared with parallel plates, hyperbolic nonlinear electric field has higher decarbonization efficiency and lower energy consumption in experiment.